I’ve been texting with this guy for a few days, just surface-level stuff. Then we started talking about sobriety. For me, it’s something I’ve had to implement to stay clear. He mentioned that sobriety is one of the highest ways to live. I responded by saying that someday I want to live in Paris, drink wine, eat croissants, and make porn. He laughed and said he doesn’t resonate with the porn frequency anymore. I told him that’s great to hear, and he said we need to change the way society looks at sex. I followed up by saying that I’m actually a sacred sexuality coach.

Then he asked if he could be honest with me. When I said yes, he admitted that he was triggered by the idea of a sacred sexuality coach talking about making porn. I sent him a voice message explaining that my idea of making porn in Paris is just a pipe dream and sounds fun to me. He asked why, and I said it was for empowerment and experience. I added that I probably want to be seen, but the key point is not letting things spiral into shame or guilt. Sometimes people need to go deep into their trauma body and experience things.

He then explained that our sex and creation energy is badly disrupted by porn and the industry around it, which takes away the value of our sacred experience with another human. I agreed with him 100 percent and then asked if he hated the suffering of animals. He said yes and added that people who treat animals poorly will have bad karma. I asked if he still ate meat, and he said yes. I asked if he believed there was a humane way of eating meat, and he said absolutely.